Julie Tenner
Female arousal is completely different to what we're taught
When I ask couples โwhat is sex?โโฃ
What I invariably hear is, itโs ๐in๐.โฃ
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When I ask men in my workshops โ๐ฅ๐ฐ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ญ๐ฅ ๐ข ๐ง๐ฆ๐ข๐ณ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ต๐ข๐ฌ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฐ๐ฐ ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐จ?โ, 100% of men answer โ๐ป๐ผโ.โฃ
When I ask women this question, 100% say โ๐๐ฒ๐โ.โฃ
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When I ask men in my workshops โ๐ฅ๐ฐ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฆ๐น๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ค๐ฆ ๐ข๐ฏ๐น๐ช๐ฆ๐ต๐บ ๐ธ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถโ๐ณ๐ฆ โ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ค๐ฆ๐ช๐ท๐ช๐ฏ๐จโ ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐ณ๐ถ๐ฏ ๐ข ๐ง๐ฆ๐ข๐ณ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ๐ฏโ๐ต โ๐จ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ถ๐จ๐ฉโ?โ 73% of men answer, โ๐ป๐ผโ.โฃ
86% of women answer โ๐๐ฒ๐โ.โฃ
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In the couples I work with, sex is usually over once the ๐ has ejaculated.โฃ
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Both men and women perform for the ๐ to get it up, keep it hard and feel desirable.โฃ
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Foreplay is considered the thing you do to get to โthe main showโ.โฃ
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Both men and women run beliefs around:โฃ
โ touching the ๐ early on = arousal โฃ
โ going straight for the nipples = arousalโฃ
โ๐ฆwet without much time or effortโฃ
โ that itโs a hard ๐ that makes her ๐ฆโฃ
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๐๐ป ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฒ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ex ๐ฏ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ๐ ๐ฒ๐ป๐๐ถ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐น๐ ๐ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฐ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฑ - ๐ถ๐ ๐ฑ๐ถ๐ฐ๐๐ฎ๐๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐ฏ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐, ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ถ๐ ๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐ผ๐ป๐ฐ๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ ๐ถ๐ ๐๐ผ๐ณ๐ ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ฒ๐ท๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐น๐ฎ๐๐ฒ๐ฑ.โฃ
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Itโs not your fault. Itโs not anyones โfaultโ. But it is important to recognise the system youโre a product of and begin discussing with your partner if thereโs anything you want to change.โฃ
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Because FEMALE arousal looks completely different.โฃ
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Want to learn more and be guided by someone else as you do? ๐๐ข๐จ๐ฃ๐๐๐ฆ๐ข๐ก๐๐๐ก๐๐ช๐ข๐ฅ๐๐ฆ๐๐ข๐ฃ๐๐ซ๐ฃ๐๐ฅ๐๐๐ก๐๐is where itโs at.